Catering Restrictions

This is something I'm having trouble wrapping my head around. Vendors with catering restrictions are just ridiculous. It's MY wedding day. It's MY thousands of dollars. It's my family and friends and things should be reflective of what we want. I should be able to use any caterer that I want as long as they are licensed. I should be able to use any cake company that I want. I should be able to use any DJ that I want. I shouldn't have to pay for nuts and mints when I don't want any damn nuts or mints.
Now, I understand other restrictions like why I can't throw rice in certain venues. I understand why I can't tack decorations up or cause otherwise particular changes to certain landscapes or buildings that may be used for other things.
However, if you're going to tell me that I have to use your catering company, your food better be amazing. If it's not and I'm honest with you and you're not willing to work with me, then stop harassing me. I'm simply not interested in being bullied into your inadequate food.
Dallas doesn't seem to have these same ridiculous restrictions. I think there are too many options for people to have such close connections with each other. Dallas is starting to win by a landslide... I just wish it was for more of the right reasons.